Just Keep Swimming : Ramblings of a Dysfunctional Mom
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Our firstborn heads to college this week.
OUR FIRSTBORN HEADS TO COLLEGE THIS WEEK.
What the what?!?
I remember leaving the hospital with Hope almost nineteen years ago, strapping her in the carseat, huddled over her thinking I could protect her somehow on that short ride home.
In a few days we’ll be strapping her stuff in a car and driving away toward her first year at college and exciting new adventures.
The only thing that has remained the same over the years is that somehow I think I can protect her from all the bumps that life will bring, huddling and hovering to shield her from any of the bad stuff. As if anything we can do as parents can prevent that. Still, we try.
Don’t get me wrong. We are so very proud of our daughter and more excited for her adventures ahead than we ever expected to be. We are looking forward to watching her fly, but it’s still going to be quite a big change for our family of four.
The short months of summer have been filled with fun jaunts to shop for her dorm room (hunting down the perfect pillow combination for her bed is crucial), hanging out with Melissa, her roommate, orientation, and filling out forms upon forms. I know I’ve missed something among all the forms.
Now as we gather all the things to make her temporary home away from home cozy, I find there is a permanent lump in my throat. Keeping myself busy has been my modus operandi. A few days ago I responded to a friend’s text who had asked how I was doing. All I could muster was that “I’m doing. I just keep doing.” And I immediately thought of Dory from the Nemo, because that’s about my level, “Just keep swimming, swimming, swimming. What do we do? We swim, swim … ”
I’ve been doing a lot of swimming. Unfortunately my normal mode of swimming, creating content to share here with you, was interrupted last week when I had some techy stuff going on with the site. Nothing major. Just routine maintenance that I’ve been putting off. There were a few days where I needed to just leave the site alone and let it get settled. Techy stuff always stresses me out, so by mid-day on Monday when the combination of the last days of summer were flying by, the pile of things bound for college was growing and my hands being tied while She Wears Many Hats was being situated just about put me over the edge, I had an overwhelming urge to just lay down on the floor and cry. But I didn’t. What did I do? I kept swimming.
So once I muddled through Monday, the rest of the week was a random mix of crazy from me. I thought I’d share it with you, because I know I can’t be alone in my dysfunction.
Monday: I love technology. I hate technology. Computer stuff.
Tuesday: While Hope was out shopping with a friend, I thought I’d help her with dorm room planning, by making a blueprint of her floor plan with all the movable pieces and parts. It grew from a flat 1-dimensional floor plan into a scale model of the room. “Please excuse the crudity of the model …” Dr. Emmett Brown, for all of you Back to the Future nerds, would be impressed. Dude, I was swimming. We all swim in different ways. I make things with paper, foam core, and tape. And yes, Hope thinks I’ve lost my mind. By the way, she did add the paper version of herself.
Wednesday: More techy head-spinning stuff that filled most of the day with phone calls to discuss things that I have no idea about. Basically my hands were still tied so I cleaned my belly button. If nothing else was to be completed that day, I could go to bed knowing that I had cleaned my belly button.
Thursday: I woke up and cleaned the shower. It was gross. Now it’s not. I played with the mini dorm room and began organizing all the college bound stuff in boxes.
Friday: I cleaned the bathroom sinks, piddled a bit more, wrote a post, then took a shower and got out of the house to clear my head and run some errands. As I was looking at home organization/storage things for Hope’s dorm, scenes from Toy Story 3 popped in my head and I almost broke down right there in the middle of the bathroom organizational aisle thinking of how could I possibly be shopping for home organization/storage things for Hope’s dorm. It’s just not right.
So, there you have it. Just a few days left before we take our darling little girl to school. How can it be? It’s incredibly hard to comprehend how fast all the years have gone. What will the rest of this week bring? I’m not sure. But you can be sure that there will be more swimming. Definitely more swimming.
What a precious girl! We will pray for Hope and Mommy in the next few weeks! 🙂 You are on an exciting adventure as you see God prepare the way for Hope and provide for Hope! Life is a series of adjustments but we have each other and God to lean on!
Oh, I feel you, girl. It is so hard to have our babies grow up and move out, ready to fly on their own. But it’s rewarding, too. You’ll be looking back soon saying to yourself, “Look how well they fly (swim)!”
And Toy Story 3? Help me. My husband and I took our two sons, 18 and 8, to see it in the movie theater – the 18-year-old who has loved Toy Story since he was the age of the 8-year-old. My husband and I cut our eyes at each other over and over again with those boys sitting between us. And then it was just silent tears for both of us. (Mine weren’t so silent.) Our boy was Andy’s age! Once I had my cry I was OK. (He commuted to college, by the way. ;)) We had already had our daughter move away to college two years earlier, but still.
Just keep swimming…
This too will pass but one thing for sure, life will never be the same again. It is sad but it is the circle of life, we just raise them to go off the best we can and then watch them soar. I watch my three soar and now I am watching grandchildren do it too, life is full of wonderful moments and changes.
Aw! Seems like you could be an Olympian with all that swimming! I’m just starting the journey of parenthood in a few months, but I can imagine that sending your baby off to college feels a little like packing up your heart and shipping it far away. You should feel proud knowing that you not only raised a child to young adulthood but that she is college bound and capable! That is an accomplishment. I just know she will do great, and so will you. Sending lots of “stay afloat” thoughts to you.
Hang in there Girl, I am emotional every day right there with you! I just try to keep thinking how happy I am going to be when I hear about all of her adventures, new experiences and new beginnings. Thanks so much for sharing the pictures of Hope. Too cute! To Hope: “The world is your oyster”
I so get it. I’m doing the breaststroke over here. Maybe you should swim my way after you drop Hope off and we can antique our way through the days for awhile to give our arms a rest!?!
Hope will blossom!! And I’ll be here with an ear and/or shoulder for you!
Much love to you all! xoxoxoxoxo
I get it… totally. I’m a few weeks behind you, but in a short time my first born will be off to college as well. It’s a little different with a boy though. I keep trying to get him to focus on what he needs for his dorm room and he, being the minimalist that he is, keeps saying “Don’t worry about it… I’ve got it covered.” There is no matching of pillows or comforters, simply white sheets and a blue comforter he’s had for years from Target. He’s got clothes, school supplies, computer/techie stuff and a debit card. He’s in a 3 man suite and it’s going to be tight.
My daughter is three years behind him and I know then that I will be an absolute mess… she will also cost me a fortune in dorm “stuff”!!!
Hang in there Mom. I get it.
I am SO thankful our girls met that first year in college. What a good friend Hope has become to my daughter! Extra bonus is that our families have met & our sons have a lot in common! I agree — just keep swimming!
Me too, Lori! We love spending time with y’all! xoxo
Mine moves out about march 2017.. Not looking forward! In fact swimming and sad while at it. Not sure what the future holds for us…
Hugs to you! Everything has turned out well. It is a challenge but exciting to see them spread their wings!