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Travel. Go see the world. Go walk on a distant shore. Go taste the flavors of other cultures. Go meet new people and learn about their lives. Go have adventures that you’ll never forget.
No, we’re not world travelers, not by any means. My passport has hardly seen the light of day. I don’t speak a foreign language. Not to mention that our list of places to visit seems to get longer and longer, instead of more fine tuned. But we plan on taking every chance we get to broaden our horizons.
Why is travel so important to us?
Prior to marriage, my church required pre-marital counseling with the pastor. One thing I recall him saying was how important it was to try to take a week of vacation at a time – a whole week, all at once. And, if possible, two weeks would be even better. His reasoning was that when you account for travel time on both ends of a trip, by the time you really start to relax, start decompressing, the time is up. He really encouraged us to take that time with one another, apart from our everyday life.
Ten years later those words of wisdom spoke very clearly to me. It was 2003, our 10th year of marriage. And it stank. Sorry, it just did. Let me explain.
In February 2003 I had a miscarriage due to an ectopic pregnancy. It threw me for a loop, both emotionally and physically to say the least.
A few months later we began to plan our 2nd honeymoon for our 10th anniversary in late November. We couldn’t have been more excited. We read everything we could get our hands on and finally settled on St. Lucia.
Tickets were purchased, plans were made and we began to look forward to getting away. A few days before our departure I found out that I had another ectopic pregnancy and was scheduled for emergency surgery. It was mind-numbing. The trip was postponed, which was the least of our worries at the time.
Early January 2004 we finally headed to St. Lucia. Once there my husband, Randy, scheduled a hike with a guide to climb Gros Piton, one of the two pitons on the Southern end of the island that rises dramatically out of the sea. I passed up on the adventure, as I was still recovering, and opted for the spa that day.
We usually never do things alone, but it was good for both of us. Randy had a private guide, Ja-ai, and had a great time visiting with him and trying to understand his creole/rasta accent. I think he kinda felt sorry for leaving me, but a day at the spa was just what I needed.
Here’s Ja-ai on the way up Gros Piton.
I remember sitting alone on the beach that morning after Randy left, waiting for my appointment. It was quiet, hardly anyone around. I can see it so clearly in my mind. The air was crisp and clean and clear. A soft mist floated over the mountains and then clarity seeped in.
It was then that I remembered to breathe.
It seemed as if I had been holding my breath for a whole year.
It was there on that beach, in that moment, that I began to regain my footing. I also started to really see my surroundings and appreciate the awesome beauty. That moment in time opened a door inside of me somehow.
We had planned this vacation as an escape, but I began to see it as not a place to hide, as if running from something, but as a place to run to – to explore, to broaden me, to live. My eyes were opened to the world again, and a restlessness grew. A restlessness that had been there before but had been pushed aside, a restlessness to see, experience, learn and grow.
I know many people regard travel as a waste of money, money that should be saved or invested. But that’s not how I see it. Yeah, our trip didn’t save us money, but it helped save me and my mind. Travel will always be an investment in our relationship and our family unity.
Plus, traveling never fails to make me more aware of the fact that the world does not revolve around me. I hope that’s something our children will continue to learn first hand too.
This post is more about travel in general than about St. Lucia. But I must tell you, while you’re here, that St. Lucia is a beautiful, beautiful place well worth a visit. A trip to St. Lucia, to stand on the sand between the Pitons, is definitely a must do before you die. It’s very dear to us.
We hope to return to St. Lucia one day and share it with our children. And maybe next time I’ll scale Gros Piton too. AND get some fantabulous pictures.
(By the way, the pictures in this post are all from St. Lucia. I apologize for the quality. They were taken with an old film camera and scanned from prints – ick.)
So I’m ready to go, how about you? Where do you want to go?
What does travel mean to you? Has a trip ever made an impact on you? Where was it? How did it change you?
Quality of the photos? Seriously? They are fantastic, Amy.
I really like this post… especially about you holding your breath for the year. I could almost hear you exhale.
Well written and thank you for being so transparent. We really have a lot in common… will have to discuss it sometime 🙂 Maybe when I move there and we are neighbors.
I would love to go to Vietnam with my dad. Alas, he won’t be free to travel he says for another year or two (works everyday/self employed).
In the mean time, I settle for a few weekends a year. Haven’t gone anywhere this year and am itching. New York again? Madison to visit a friend and cross out WI off my 50 states list?
Thank you for the gentle nudge not to always put travel on the backburner 🙂
This post gave me chills. I love learning more about you, because I really, really like you even though I don’t technically ‘know’ you. I’m so sorry you had some rough times, but you seem like such a strong woman now. You know, traveling has never been important to my hubby and I. I have taken the same 2 vacations for 27 years with my family. I love them because they are full of nostalgia and comfort. We want to go other places, but don’t want to miss out on those trips, and well…we aren’t millionaires. 🙂
But you are right. We should take a trip of our own. This is really speaking to me right now. If only I could leave tomorrow…
Amazing Amy – thank you for your honesty…it does certainly help to put things into perspective. A few years ago, I was included in an educator study tour to Honduras with Heifer International. We traveled the country, visiting Heifer projects and seeing how entire communities had changed because of the generosity of others. It was eye opening. It was mind boggling. And I will never look at generosity and charity the same way again…It’s not just a little check. Or a meal delivered. It is a family changed and an entire community improved.
In just the last few days I had been thinking that the only reason I would consider returning to work was if the money I earned was used strictly for our family to travel. Not to pay down the mortgage or develop the basement. Travel. I have been out of the classroom for eleven years and just decided without mentioning it to my husband or children that travel would be what I would work for. It is something I want for my family. Like you I have not travelled extensively, no backpacking through Europe for me, and I regret it. I want my children to experience different cultures and see for themselves how different yet similar we all are. I can’t wait. We are booked for two weeks in Quebec city this summer. We are very excited.
Dana
Yes, we need to go. Just go. Well said!
My dad kept putting off his trip to Germany and he died before he could do it. I was so sad for him.
It is so good to get away, and you’re right it takes a while to really unwind and breathe.
Great post, Amy. I love your perspective.
Several trips have made a difference in our lives however the one we took as a family 17 years ago changed everything. It moved us from our native California to Oklahoma. It brought us new friends and family and adventures we would have never imagined.
Where do I still want to go? Switzerland! It’s where my mother was from and I hear it calling me every now and then.
I couldn’t agree more…travel broadens the mind and lets you see how life can be so different and beautiful outside our little lives.
My niece who is 17 just returned from a Habitat for Humanity project in Guatemala…she lives a pretty privileged life here in Canada and she saw a side of life that opened her up and excited her so much. She was so excited to have gone there and totally loved it. She would take that trip over a luxury resort any day she said.
For me..I am a flight attendant so travel is a constant in my life..I love to visit far away places. This September we are going to spend 3 weeks in Turkey..to celebrate my hubbys 60th…with a U2 concert for good measure. We love to travel and it renews our spirit.
Great post…
Wonderful post. I have been through an ectopic pregnancy, I can relate. I love St. Lucia and spent a wonderful Thanksgiving there with my family. As a USA expat (I live in Germany) and a traveler to over 50 countries, I think travel is one of the most healing and wonderful thing you can do for yourself and your family. It takes you outside and inside yourself at the same time. Learning about other cultures and meeting people of different nationalities is an experience you can’t put a price tag on.
This is a great post. I feel the same way about the power of stepping out of your every day life and looking at your life from a different angle. It makes things suddenly become so clear… I kind of blogged about the same concept after my Easter weekend at my parents’ house.
I love this post! There are so many places around the world (and the good ole U.S.) I would go if $$$ and busyness of life were not an issue. I guess planning is key to actually making it happen. Where should we take our girls before they’re all grown up and out of the nest?? We need a plan, Amy!!
I love this state as you can travel a few hours and be in the mountains or at the beaches. We haven’t traveled much far from home. I have always been content with a week at the beach in the summer. Maybe a fall mountain excursion. I want to see the Grand Canyon and the Rockies one day. Italy and Greece are my dream vacations.
Thanks for sharing your trips with us. I love it.
All my life I’ve felt a gentle tug to visit Ireland. Several of my great-grandparents immigrated from there. Hearing the family stories handed down from them always fascinated me. So, my husband and I worked very hard and saved up for 20 years to take a trip there. Oh, we had many, many other vacations through the years, but there was always that goal of getting to Ireland. In September 2008, we finally made it! And when I stepped off the plane all I could think was, “Home! I’m home!” It was the most wonderful, most incredible ten days of my life. The Irish are the most friendly, welcoming people in the world. I hope to go back again one day. My husband feels the same tug toward Scotland, so that’s our next big destination. In the meantime, we’ll spend some weekends on the coast near Charleston and Savannah this year.
I love this story Amy it touched so many places in my heart. I completely agree with you about traveling, how it shapes you for the better. I have been fortunate in my life to travel to many places, two that resonate the most. I would have to say the first trip abroad at 16 with my conformation mother to Italy (& more) made me the woman that I am today. The budding artist residing inside was able to see how we are here for only a fleeting amount of time but we leave a part of our soul behind in so many different ways. From the grandest to the simplest. I almost didn’t come home 🙂 Thanks so much for sharing.
LOVE this post! Travel is so very important to me. Seeing the world and experiencing different cultures helps make you a well rounded person. Also, love your point about taking time out from our hectic lives. R&R is so vital to our continued existence … without the time to recharge, our batteries drain and we cannot continue the output level we so desperately need on a day to day basis!
What a beautiful post! The picture quality gives them a nostalgic feel which matches the touching post written around them. I’m a full believer in travel as the best way to renew and recharge one’s batteries. I loved how you said to not use travel as an “escape” but as a reason to explore. I used to hate that my parents dragged me and my brother to amazing places like Hawaii only to spend the entire time sight-seeing and only one measly day at the beach. But now, that’s the exact type of experience I want every vacation to be about. Learning and seeing things with just enough relaxation thrown in to regain sanity. I’d love to go to Southeast Asia (besides the Philippines where I’ve been many times) and explore Laos, Vietnam, and Thailand (I’ve been but it was only a few short days and it was limited to Bangkok).
I’ve only traveled in Canada and a couple of states in the U.S. And I’ve NEVER regretted a trip. Sad thing is…my husband and I have never had a vacation trip together yet. We didn’t go on a honeymoon and now all of our trip money seems to go to trips home. But I’ve made the decision (confirmed after reading this) to put all air miles that we save towards going home because our expenses are really only flights…and start a trip fund. We may only ever get to go every other year or every few years but at least we’ll get to go. There’s SOOO many places I want to go!
Thanks for sharing. In 1986 I was invited to sail on 28ft. sailboat from Boca Raton FL> to the Abacos, Bahamas. I had never even heard of Abaco. The guy who owned the boat had just lost his wife of 35 yrs. to breast cancer. He and I and a crazy Cajun set sail @ 6:30pm and it took us 13 hours to get across. Once the sun got into the right angle and I was able to see into the water I burst into tears.It was just that beautiful. We sailed all through the tiny islands for 10 days. I have since then been back 13 times. It took me 3 yrs to get my surfer husband- (if anybody has a surfer husband then they know that EVERY vacation revolves around waves) he didn’t think there would be ridable waves in the Bahamas. hehe…well he knows now and keeps a surfboard stashed up in the rafters under a friends house. The people, the beauty and the escape of it has changed me forever. Every time I get on that water ferry that takes me to Marsh Harbour (where the airport is) to return to FL I weep. I love you HopeTown.
Absolutely beautiful pictures :))))))
I could not agree more. The entire post made perfect sense to me. Oh to travel.
Actually we almost went to St. Lucia for our honeymoon and its on our must see list.
It seems like so long since we travelled and it really hasn’t been any time at all… its just that life is moving so fast. Our next trip will most likely be to Maui as B has never been to Hawaii and we have some dear friends who just moved there.